A woman threw a house party with 65 men she’s matched on Tinder and Hinge and connected with the man she’s been dating for a year

• Cassidy Davis threw a house party with 65 men she matched on dating apps, calling it a “messy singles party.”

• The concept was a hit, so Davis continues to host venues around Los Angeles, despite meeting her now-boyfriend at her first party.

• The welcoming atmosphere includes icebreaker games and heart tokens for guests to fall in love with.

Cassidy Davis spent five years dating single men in Los Angeles and was fed up.

On dating apps, Davis said she would fit with seemingly compatible magicians, actors, writers, and musicians, but grew weary when their personal connections were lackluster or downright disappointing.

“A dumpster fire, that’s how I would describe it,” said Davis, who works as an actor. As Valentine’s Day approached last year, she decided to delete her dating apps and try something completely different.

She instructed her friends to invite dating app matches they hadn’t met to a blender in her apartment. Concerned that no one would show up, Davis invited 65 men she’d matched with on Tinder and Hinge. Davis made a TikTok of the event, which she dubbed the “Chaotic Singles Party,” which went viral with 1.7 million likes and over 1,000 comments, many from users saying they wanted to join or host their own. And after Davis received rave reviews from her own guests (including one who would soon become her boyfriend), she decided to keep throwing lively parties at venues in different Los Angeles neighborhoods. The concept remains: when you participate, use it as an opportunity to invite someone you’ve matched with via an app but who’s still a stranger.

Davis said her Millennial and Gen Z guests, who typically find out about Chaotic Singles Party on TikTok or Instagram, often tell her how refreshing and welcoming the in-person experience feels after years of relying on dating apps to find love. She hosted 17 parties in 2022, mostly in Los Angeles, and plans to expand to five new cities this year as her social media followers from across the country are begging her to host their own parties, she said.

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Davis met her now-boyfriend at her very first mixer, but she still throws them

When Davis was planning her first party, she said she broke her own rule and invited a handsome man she met at a bar, not on dating apps. She knew she had a crush on him but didn’t know if the feelings were mutual, so she hatched a devious plan that included a video confessional.

“Everyone, tell us who you have a crush on,” Davis told her guests after setting up her phone in her bathroom, a makeshift private booth for a confessional style Video she later uploaded to TikTok. In it, she and her boyfriend of a year admitted they liked each other.

Even outside of the market, Davis decided to continue curating the parties for her single friends and social media followers, who loved the concept. She said that being able to focus on her guests rather than her own search for a partnership has been an unexpected benefit.

“It kind of lets me be everyone’s wing lady and sidekick at these events,” Davis told Insider.

Since her first party, Davis has found ways to make the experience more welcoming. She added ice-breaker games, like question cards that ask, “What was the worst date you’ve ever been on?”

Each guest also gets a “golden heart,” a sticker to give to their best crush before the night is over.

“And then there’s always this one hot guy who ends up covered in gold hearts,” Davis said.

That year, Davis estimated between 250 and 350 singles attended each Chaotic Singles Party. She has hosted social media influencers and spotted some contestants on Netflix reality show The Circle there as well. Ticket prices range from $10 to $85. depending on the party.

You don’t have to be an extrovert to join the Chaotic Singles Party

Davis said she’s always been outgoing, so she knew mixing would be more fulfilling for her than meeting guys on dating apps.

But for those who are introverted and worried about fitting into a giant singles mixer, Davis said she’s curated the event to welcome anyone who wants to take the leap of faith to find connections.

She said that once a group of single women bought tickets to the Chaotic Singles Party, thinking they were just making it a pit stop on their evenings. But after hitting bars where it was unclear who was looking for new connections, they returned to Davis’ event for the rest of the night.

“They said, ‘We missed the energy of the singles party where everyone was open. Everyone was welcoming and even if they weren’t into us they were gentle and respectful of it.’ Whereas in a regular bar it’s a lot more cutthroat, a lot more like a jungle,” Davis said.

She said she estimates half of her attendees are self-proclaimed introverts looking to venture out of their comfort zone. For nervous newbies, she suggested treating the event like a social experiment and inviting a cute stranger you’re compatible with onto a dating app. Even if you don’t click, your hopeful energy can propel you to other fun connections, Davis said.

“I feel like putting myself out there really energetically opens the door to more dating opportunities. Maybe that’s the woo-woo LA girl in me, but I really believe in it. My best advice is to be brave and get out of our comfort zone.”

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