Dear Denise: I want to try group sex, but my husband doesn’t want to

Our sex life is so boring that I could explain to you individually when and how it will happen each time.

I feel completely suffocated by the lack of spontaneity. He didn’t say a blanket “no” to me, but every time I bring up the conversation, he changes the subject.

I’m half thinking about going it alone.

Answer:You’re clearly frustrated and looking for some adventure and va-va-voom in the bedroom – and there’s nothing wrong with that. But don’t try jumping between the sheets just yet. This might be time for a little self-reflection: ask yourself why these feelings are coming up in you now?

Do you feel like time is passing and you want to experience more, or are you upset that your man hasn’t made an effort to spice up your sex life?

If your man is strictly a one-on-one man, there’s nothing you can do to change his mind, and honestly, trying to force him into something he won’t agree with is a big red flag comfortable with.

Group sex, threesomes, and swinging can sound very glamorous, but that’s not always the case and it’s a big step in any relationship.

Have you told your husband how bored you are? Be sensitive and start there. He may have sharp alternatives.

I feel so unattractive

Inquiry: I (25) have gained a lot of weight lately and can’t stand the thought of my boyfriend touching me or seeing me naked. It’s really killing me. Answer:You are so much taller than your jean size or weight. Every body goes through times of change. So first of all, be kind to yourself. Your boyfriend loves you and wants to be intimate. The only person examining your body is you.

should i give up

Inquiry:I (23) started selling pictures of my feet online but I haven’t told my boyfriend. I’m making decent money, so I don’t see any harm. Should I wipe the slate clean?

Answer:We don’t have to tell our partners everything, but it should be mentioned that some men may fancy pictures of your feet. When it comes to relationships, trust is hugely important, and while you have the right to do what you want when it comes to yourself and your feet, truth is key.

Email your issues to Maura O’Neill maura.oneill@sundayworld.com Denise Smith denise.smith@sundayworld.com All pictures were provided by models