Dear Denise: I would like him to take on other positions
Sort out your love life with honest and practical tips from Denise Smith
Mix it up if you don’t like doggy style. Photo: Getty Images
Dear Denise: With my new partner it’s all about the rear entry position. I like him so much, but I’m not so sure if I always want this. Is he not interested in my breasts?
I adore his face and his chest. I’m not too hot on all fours either. It’s not particularly flattering on my figure – and why should I bother wearing a nice bra? Still, I want to be with him.
Denise replies: “A lot of women aren’t too comfortable with this position because it’s called ‘doggy’ style, and it’s not an animal, is it? But it feels so good to get in touch with your wilder side. Your new man likes deep penetration, but he needs to be gentle and slow to give you time to be ready and want him.
The biggest problem with this position is that any clitoral stimulation from him is quite acrobatic. But if you take a leading role in the movement and leave some space between the two bodies so he doesn’t keep bumping, it might be more fun.
It’s completely fair not to find yourself in this position every time you make love. Show your new lover what you want and that you have been thinking about him. Show him how to please you and he will thank you. If he is a good sexual partner, he wants you to be aroused and want you to orgasm.
The dildo never fits, does it?
Question: I’ve spent too much money on dildos and still haven’t found the right one. How do I get the right size? I’m not sure if it’s for me. Do I have to do all the work?
Answer: A dildo is intended for penetration only, so you need to be aroused before using it. It may sound silly, but a cucumber is your only man. Cover it with a condom, cut it to the appropriate size and measure it. Buy a high-quality dildo and protect your vagina.
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